My twenty five year old son was
recently unemployed. He applied for some jobs and had interviews but no job
offers. Instead of continuing to apply
to posted job openings, he found a small business that had no job openings but
that looked like a great place to work. He
did some research and discovered that the CEO of the company had graduated from
his university (although it was many years earlier). Using his alumni connection, he called the
CEO and talked about how his skills and the company’s goals was a good
match. After several
conversations/interviews, the company decided to hire him. His initiative and
risk taking demonstrated that he had
what it took to make a significant contribution to the company. Most companies
do not want people who are just good at doing what they are told to do. They want people who do more than just solve
problems. They want people who find problems and turn them into
opportunities. They need risk takers,
and independent thinkers who thrive in a team. My son demonstrated that not only do “21st
century skills” are essential once you get a job; they are essential in getting
a job.
My son’s story shows the practical
benefits of empowering students as an important outcome of their
education. As a retired principal and
now as someone who has written about bullying prevention and school change, I
see the concept of student empowerment as holding the promise of integrating
two important initiatives, not generally
considered related to each other: 21st century learning and bullying
prevention.
Research, resources, and the
articulate advocates of each of these initiatives, end up competing for a
limited amount of time and energy from the people who work in schools. These
people, however, are always looking for integrated, approaches that can achieve
many goals at the same time. These
initiatives can be integrated if we focus our efforts in one place: the
students themselves. Our approach should
be guided by this phrase: “of the students, by the students and for the
students”. By focusing efforts in this
direction schools can meet the important challenges and goals of both
initiatives at the same time.
Traditional approaches to bullying
prevention primarily that rely on rules, rewards and consequences, have been
proven to be ineffective. Research shows
that adults see and are aware of about 5% of the bullying that occurs in a
school, while students see almost all of it. Students who bully will not stop
because they fear punishment. Some correctly think they can get away with it or
some students bully reactively with little or no forethought. Most students who bully do so for an
audience. The audience response to
bullying will to a very large extent determine whether the bullying will
continue and escalate or decrease and stop. The real solutions to the problem
of bullying lie in the hands of the students.
The research in bullying prevention
has converged on one key element: the importance of empowering bystanders-all
students. Effective bullying prevention
requires us to look closely at what is going on in the hearts and minds of the
bystanders. There are many reasons why bystanders don’t typically either
intervene and/or report bullying to adults.
Many of these reasons are based on fear of becoming either a victim or
being associated with a victim who has less social status (less popular) than
the student who bullies. Bystanders
often don’t report bullying because they think that adults will not take them
seriously, or make the situation worse.
They also don’t intervene or tell because they are used to adults
handling all the problems in a school. Bullying prevention is seen as the
responsibility of the people in charge-the adults, not the students.
Bystanders can also be caught with
conflicting emotions when confronted with a bullying situation. They may have
empathy for the target of bullying but lack confidence in their ability to do
anything about it. They might have ambivalent feelings toward the student who
is bullied and are not sure if they should help. The default response for
students in these situations is to play it safe and do nothing. Doing nothing
in response to bullying is not a neutral act-it tacitly condones it and
promotes it.
Schools, therefore, need to shift
the focus of bullying prevention from traditional approaches of establishing
rules and enforcing them, or as separate stand alone program to a broader approach
integrated with the overall educational program and school environment.
Such an approach should be guided
by the following questions:
Do students know about the
influence they have in determining the amount and intensity of bullying in
their school?
Do students know they have a
responsibility and obligation to protect and support all students?
Do students have an understanding
of why and how it is difficult to be a helpful bystander?
Do students have a set of skills
that they have learned to use in a variety of bullying situations?
Do students know that adults need
their help and will support their efforts to be responsible?
Can students trust that every adult
in the school cares about what happens to each student?
If schools can develop a culture
and climate where the answers to these questions are “yes”, then bullying will
be transformed from just a problem to be solved to an opportunity to improve
the education of all students.
Empowering students as bystanders also transforms the problem of
bullying from being another item on a long “to do” list, to a goal related to
the core mission of education. Both of
these key shifts increase the likelihood of gaining greater staff commitment
and support toward a positive and purposeful goal, rather than just their
compliance to another mandate.
I once did an activity with a group
of school principals where I divided the group in two. I had one group list the skills, knowledge
and attitudes needed for students to be empowered and effective
bystanders. The other group listed the
knowledge, skills and attitudes needed for students to be effective in the 21st
century work environment. When both
groups compared their lists they found that they were almost identical. The goal of empowering students as effective
bystanders is really the same goal of preparing our students for success in
work and life. This goal of student
empowerment redefines success as the integration of individual achievement with
a moral commitment to help others.
Peter Drucker said that leadership
was not doing things the right way but doing the right things. Schools need to believe that each student is
capable of leadership: learning to do the right thing even when there are no
clear rules. An empowered bystander, a student with 21st century
skills and a leader are one in the same: a person with the courage, confidence
and judgment to make right decisions that will benefit the greater good and who
has the evolving skills to become more effective in doing so as time goes on. When
schools meet this central mission, they will be preventing and reducing
bullying while at the same time providing the best education possible for our
students.